Yes.all of this. I also take care of all the finances . And I have a full time job and I’m trying to get my own firm off the ground. And he wonders why I’m exhausted all the time. Girl with skull balloon shirt My husband also works very hard and always does whatever I ask of him. But I have to ask- which means I am always managing everything!
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I think you make a great point – you have to ask for help which means you’re still managing everything. I think this is something a lot of people miss, or they’ll think ‘oh she’s lucky, her husband will help her when asked’ (which is ridiculous in itself). You still have to inventory everything that needs to be done, decide which things you want him to do, find him, ask him to do them, then answer any questions he has. That’s a ton of stuff to do Girl with skull balloon shirt when he could just take a look around and notice the toys are on the floor/laundry needs to be folded/kids need dressed/etc Mothers’ mental load is real but also – get it out of your mind and ask for help. I’ve realized that just because it’s in my mind doesn’t mean it’s in anyone else’s and that’s just the way we’re different. As I read this, exhausted as I am, I’m waiting until 12:01 so I can register for after care at school next school year as soon as they open registration to secure a spot. My husband is fast asleep.
And I’ll try to get up by 6 am to squeeze in a workout before I go to work tomorrow. Mental load is an understatement! My husband was our daughter, Georgie’s carer since she was 6 months old – she is 18 now. The only way we could survive financially was for me to go out to work. 2 years ago, out of the blue, he became disabled himself and almost overnight I had to become carer to both of them, housekeeper and breadwinner. By far the hardest thing for me was the mental side of things. He had always been the oracle when it came to Georgie and suddenly he was unable to make decisions. He always knew what to do and now he says “I don’t know, what do you think?”. I work from home so I was able to do everything that needed to be done physically, but I am taking early retirement because there is too much going on in my head!