I was told all my life that i was the best and the smartest. I just assumed it was because they loved me, but that i am actually average. Time goes by and people, Don’t be an ass donkey even those who don’t know me closely (teachers, peers) tell me I’m the smartest person they’ve known. I still doubt every success i have.
Don’t be an ass donkey tee
I think the opposite can happen as well. Tell a child they’re gifted their entire lives, and will eventually doubt their abilities when they don’t pick something up right away. Its not always outside pressure. Ive been an above average achiever since childhood and have an incredibly supportive family but from as early as my first report at nursery teachers were telling my mum that Don’t be an ass donkey I had to learn it was ok to make a mistake and that it didn’t have to be hidden and I didn’t always have to start over. Its just who I was. A perfectionist who criticised myself to no end, hence now knowing the term imposter syndrome for my feelings of fraudulence as an adult for all of my achievements. Its not always the family
Get it and hope you love it
exactly, I do suffer of it because of me being too much a perfectionist and also because of my too supportive parents I think! I grew up thinking nothing I do is really good except for them who loves it not because truly good but just because they love me. Until one day in my overwhelming thoughts of incompetence, someone told me they wished they were as “accomplished and put together” as I was. It was like a lightbulb went off..I realized that if I..
With all my doubts, lack of time management and horrible organization, could still somehow be giving off the appearance of “having it all together” that maybe the people I idolized felt the exact same way. I think that realization really helped me get comfortable in my own skin and be happy with what I had. I didn’t need to be bigger, or better to beat anyone else…I just had to do well for me… And I can’t say I’ve really tried to compete ever again. I just do good to feel good for me, because my concept of success or happy does not apply to all, nor others to mine… It’s good to aspire for better.