It’s caused by hyper criticism. Being criticized for everything starting as a child. A child that’s told they are the best their entire lives will believe they are the best. Dear santa all I want is money to go camping A child criticized will criticize everything they do.
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I had older sibbling one being 7 years older and being compared to them at the 3-7 years age Gap sucked. I thought something was wrong with me for a long time. Turns out I was just younger than them. My mom legit didn’t believe in the “theory of self esteem.” She would say “I expect greatness, nothing you do will be good enough.” Dear santa all I want is money to go camping My older brother was a year older and he was told the same thing, it didn’t bother him. I’m 35 and still suffer from self esteem issues, despite my successes.
I suffer from this and had a very supportive home life. I was told I was smart, kind, creative, and resilient. I still struggle, on the daily, with thoughts that I am secretly a “mean girl”, that I have no original thoughts or ideas, that my brain doesn’t work right, and that I’m just a giant fucking screw up mess.
I like you have great supportive family members- but often feel I don’t measure up. I don’t think having supportive parents excludes someone from feeling like an imposter. you can have a supportive family and still be critized. The criticizism doesn’t even have to come from your family. It comes from everyone around you. In school you are literally graded on participation in class. How many time did you raise your hand. How many times were you critized for giving the wrong answer.